Trauma-Informed Leadership: Navigating Decision-Making with Resilience
In my journey through the world of international development and social change, and then working as a trauma informed coach, I've encountered countless individuals with inspiring stories of resilience and a deep drive to make a positive impact on the world. Many of them, like myself, have lived through trauma and adversity, which fuels their passion for change. However, it's crucial to acknowledge that unaddressed trauma can significantly affect our decision-making processes, potentially hindering the progress we're striving to achieve.
Understanding Trauma: It's More Than You Think
Remember, trauma isn't limited to catastrophic events; it encompasses a broad spectrum of experiences, both large and small. It can stem from childhood wounds, subtle societal messages, or the daily stressors of modern life. We can't escape the pervasive trauma of a world where systems like capitalism and the patriarchy often perpetuate harm rather than serve us.
These less obvious traumas, sometimes referred to as "small-t" traumas, can accumulate over time, leaving a profound impact on our nervous systems. The constant stress of living in a world characterized by inequality, racism, and the 24/7 news cycle can take a toll, heightening our fear responses and affecting our decision-making abilities.
Impact of Trauma on Decision Making
Trauma is a complex beast that leaves a lasting imprint not only on our minds and emotions but also on our bodies. The physiological responses to trauma can manifest as heightened fear responses, influencing our decisions in ways we may not even realize. These automatic reactions often operate beneath our conscious awareness, dictating our behaviors and leadership styles.
In my own life, I've noticed how unregulated trauma responses can lead to counterproductive behaviors. When my nervous system isn't properly regulated, I tend to fall into two patterns. One involves an overpowering need to control every aspect of my surroundings and everyone in it. The other is a complete withdrawal and an instinct to numb myself from the world. If I’m interrupted or don’t have the space to numb it can lead to a lack of patience that quickly turns to anger. None of these behaviors foster effective leadership; they are, in fact, vestiges of trauma-driven coping mechanisms.
Recognizing Triggers and Restoring Regulation
Acknowledging the impact of trauma on our decision making is the first step toward healing. Developing self-awareness helps us recognize when we're triggered, whether by a situation, a memory, or a feeling. This awareness allows us to pause and assess our reactions and make conscious choices.
To make decisions from a more regulated place, it's essential to prioritize our healing journey. Seeking support from trauma-informed coaches or therapists can be incredibly beneficial. These professionals can guide us through the intricacies of our trauma, helping us understand our triggers and develop healthier coping strategies.
In my own experience as a trauma informed life coach and currently studying to become a Trauma of Money Coach has been a transformative journey. It's provided me with valuable tools and insights into the ways trauma affects our relationship with money, abundance, and, ultimately, our decision making.
Tips for Trauma-Informed Decision Making
1. Cultivate Self-Awareness: Make mindfulness and self-reflection daily practices to become more attuned to your emotional responses and triggers.
2. Seek Professional Support: Consider working with a trauma-informed coach or therapist to explore your trauma history and develop healthier coping strategies.
3. Mindful Decision Making: When faced with significant decisions, take the time to pause and ground yourself. Engage in deep breathing or grounding exercises to ensure you're making choices from a regulated state.
4. Create a Supportive Environment: Foster a culture in your organization that values emotional intelligence, vulnerability, and open communication. Encourage team members to support each other's healing journeys.
5. Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself as you navigate the complexities of trauma-informed leadership. Remember that healing is an ongoing process, and each step forward is a victory.
By addressing the impact of trauma on decision making, we can transform ourselves into more effective, empathetic leaders who are better equipped to create meaningful change in the world.